As unfortunately people like Erin Pizzey, founder of womens' shelters discovered when she was run out of the UK by feminists, those who advocate for the well being of men and boys are often subjected to unwelcome attention. Here you can find some tools and advice to help out, and generally good advice for men.
Use Google Alerts
This is a monitoring tool provided by Google which allows you to receive email notification when new content matching a specified key-phrase is crawled by google’s indexer.
As a minimum, your name and your online username should be watched for.
Keep a record of text messages and calls
If you suspect a partner is becoming unstable, it might be an idea to start keeping a record of text messages and calls. Send affirmative and positive text messages before and after any encounters to ensure that there is no doubt it was consensual.
Carry a camera
In the summer of 2012 as MHRM posting campaigns became active in a number of Canadian cities, physical and verbal harrassment started to increase. Cell phone cameras are nearly universally available – and capturing video of harassment or interference can turn an incident of possible violence by opponents of male human rights into a public relations win. However, a cell phone camera is less than ideal for several reasons. Almost all cell phone cameras require multiple button-pushes on a touch-screen to use. This is far from reliable in bright sunlight. Consider carrying a dedicated camera instead.
Keep a Journal
This is particularly useful in situations of divorce, spousal separation and domestic turbulence.
If you find yourself seperating from your wife or girlfriend a low-tech handwritten journal can save your life, and keep you out of jail. A history of “normal” journal entries prior to issues of conflict will be useful in establishing the stress and pain created by attacks against you by your ex wife or girlfriend. Use a notebook with a traditional binding – not a spiral bound or a 3-ring style binder. Also, never tear pages out of your journal, as that will be used to present a case against you of fabricating a false history.
Back up your records on removable media
If you cover your ass by keeping emails, text messages, and recorded conversations – but you lose access to those files because your laptop is stolen or seized – then you’re in trouble.
Back those files up on removable media – and store the backup device in a separate location.
Don’t share accounts with anyone, ever
This is a mistake made by seemingly intelligent people and it’s easy to avoid by understanding the nature of digital accounts. By digital accounts, I mean email, instant message, online identities, bank accounts, credit cards, google accounts, and more.
A digital account with a username and password is an identity, if it’s your username and password, then it’s YOUR identity. Your wife doesn’t go in person to the bank wearing a disguise – dressed as you; that would be a criminal act, even if she did it with your blessing. If you share your usernames and passwords, you’re encouraging your spouse to masquerade as you. Even in a healthy relationship, this is a bad idea. Your digital-identity is your identity.
In an adversarial relationship situation this can lead to serious trouble.
Don’t share your computer. This is a tough one for the technically-challenged. Many couples share accommodations in a scenario in which there is only one computer. The answer to this is separate accounts. If you own the machine – DO NOT give anyone else an account with administrative access, a basic user account is plenty.
And if you do share a computer – with separate user accounts, log out when you’re away from the machine, and do not share your password.
Don't do it. Do not, full stop. Really.
If you get divorced you lose all rights to your children except those granted by your wife. In literally 99% of cases you will lose the family home, although you'll have to keep up both the mortgage and maintenance payments, even as she shares your once marital bed with her new boyfriend. 73 percent of judicial separations and 54 percent of divorce applications were filed by the wives in divorce proceedings. If you get married you are her property to dispose of as she sees fit, under the law you have no rights, only responsibilities.
A man would have to be insane to agree to a contract like that.
These are just a few ideas, there are many more, and we welcome suggestions from readers and visitors to the site.
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